Charisma is defined as “compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.” Think of it as having a presence or aura that seems naturally magnetic and makes people want to be around you or become associated with you in one way or another.
Charisma can make a man extremely powerful, and it’s not just a valuable trait for seducing women, even though it certainly works like a gem in that realm. You can use charisma to advance in your career or the workplace. You can use it in sales to convince other people to buy things from you. You can use it to gain favors from others. Or you can simply use it to attract people to you for whatever reason you desire.
In short, being charismatic makes you appear like a powerful leader and a winner, and we all want to be around those types in order to advance our own lives.
Is charisma a trait that some men are born with, and other men will never achieve? Not necessarily. Now let’s look how you can become more charismatic by developing one of the most important things around: your presence.
Charisma isn’t just about projecting your own personal power. It’s also about projecting something that makes the person with you feel better about themselves. Once you achieve this, they will be willing to become your follower, almost to the point of becoming devoted and loyal to you.
Keeping this in mind, the first thing you can boost your presence and charisma is to pay complete attention to the person you’re engaged with. This means putting your smartphone away, putting it on silent, and focusing intensely on what they have to say to make them feel special. Don’t look at other people in the room either. The only person you should be interested in and focused on is that one in front of you.
One of the most obvious ways to tell if you’re focused is via eye contact. When you make eye contact, studies show that you convey feelings of confidence, sincerity, stability, and warmth. All of these are desirable traits that are also charismatic. It also builds a strong connection. You don’t have to stare into their eyes incessantly. You can look away for a second before returning it.
Smiling is another way to convey charisma. A smile builds trust, rapport, and makes someone feel comfortable and less threatened. Your smile should be natural and not forced.
Want to show that you’re listening? Nod every now and then when it makes sense to do so. Don’t nod at every single thing that person says, however, as you don’t want to seem too easy or as a pushover.
In order to focus intensely on a person, you need to be comfortable. This means your clothes should fit right and not be too tight. Avoid fidgeting too much by tapping your feet or your hands. Doing so will make you appear either nervous or as if you want the conversation to end.
Last, but not least, you need to listen in order to convey charisma. Don’t just look at the person and nod. Actually listen to what they have to say and follow it up with clarifying questions that make them expand on each of their points. If they ask you a question, don’t respond instantly. Wait a couple of seconds, as if what you have to say has a lot of thought behind it.
As you can see, these tips are pretty easy to follow and they show one thing: You don’t need to be born with charisma to have it. All it takes is practice.